Change (Yes we can!)

Once you reach the late 20s, it's hard to change the very core of your nature, especially (probably only) the bad shades of it. If you are socially awkward, you will be such a person for a long time to come. Like me, if you are under-confident, you will probably suffer from this syndrome for a significant part of your adult life. Well, that's what I believed, until now. I think, we can change for better whenever we want. The key is to move on, forgive your self and forget the past. I started thinking on these lines when I read about (arguably) the greatest tennis players of all times, Roger Federer. Years ago, when he was a newbie to this sport, he let his temper get the best of him. However, today his biggest weapon against other players is his "mind". His mental strength far exceeds any of his opponents. Maybe, because a two-set down Federer forgets that he's lost those two, but remembers that he still has three to win and change the course of the game completely. I think that makes all the difference; to have a clean slate; to prevent our past from fogging away the present and future; to let it go and start afresh with a positive attitude. At 30, we still have 40 more years to get it right and brooding over the past ain't gonna get you anywhere, honey! Of course this change requires active efforts from our side. For instance, my way of dealing with my dwindling confidence is to say "Yes" to every little thing I fear. So, if I feel I wouldn't be able to pass a goddamn class, I will dive in and sign up for it. Sounds easy, isn't it? Well, it has helped me so far! But, since I have been using this strategy for such a long time, I wish the next time I won't fear or doubt myself at all. The next time, all I would remember is that I have succeeded these past few times, so I will be fine. I know it's hard, but overcoming the slightest weakness, might help us take the biggest step of our lives one day and living under its fear, might leave us stagnant. So, apparently, the choice is quite simple. Just need to grab it till we can :)